Letter To That Hurt Child Who Hides Under An Adult Appearance

I know that everything you’re going through is difficult. You are barely 8 years old and you have already learned to camouflage your emotions and draw strength from anywhere. You are a hurt child, a child with a broken soul. All because of a series of circumstances that you have had to experience at a very young age.

Perhaps your parents do not have a healthy relationship and you have to witness, and even be a part of, their discussions. Maybe they don’t have time for you, or they just have other priorities like work or rest.

They usually leave you with your grandparents and when they are with you they do not dedicate the quality time that you demand so much.

That hurt child has a wound that stings him

Nobody knows how much everything that happens around you is affecting you. Older people always believe that children live in the moment, that they soon forget things and that they are “in their world”.

However, you know that all this reaches deep into you and, although now the consequences are not manifested in any way, sooner or later, they will.

You are a hurt child, with a wound that stings and is growing because no one helps you heal it. You do not know how. You don’t have the tools to do it. You are a complete beginner in this game of life.

Sometimes you cry. Yes, but you do it when you are in your bed, in the dark, perhaps with some background noise that reveals new differences that have arisen between your parents.

You feel powerless, empty, with no one to understand or support you. You are just a child. Adults keep telling you not to do this and that. However, sometimes you find that they are not doing what they are trying to teach you.

A false adult appearance that can withstand the blows

Faced with such indifference, you acquire an adult appearance, you show yourself whole, you don’t cry in public, you don’t scream, you don’t show yourself. You just look sadly at what happens around you and you resign yourself.

You can’t do anything, because nobody takes you seriously. You are too small, but at the same time you are pushed to behave like an adult. Nobody perceives you. Nobody sees you. You are aware that people are content to see physical appearance, but they stay only there, on the surface.

However, your family should know you, know that you are pretending to be okay when you are not. They should care about you, they should do something! Why will they allow that situation that hurts you so much?

In the end, you end up understanding that people tend to look only to themselves, seeking their benefit, writhing in their pain, while ignoring those around them who are also affected by the same.

Experiences, good or bad, have a role

Despite this, of all the problems you will encounter, all of this will allow you to grow. You will mature, you will learn and you will become someone who will know how to transform that pain into something good, into something positive that will propel you forward.

You will gain resilience, you will understand the value of knowing how to express and identify your emotions, you will know how to manage them and, above all, you will learn to forgive.

You will forgive your parents because they have not been able to do better and you will forgive yourself for having felt guilty at times without actually being one.

When you realize it, that wound that you harbored inside will have closed, giving rise to a scar that you will look at with great affection.

Because while childhood emotional wounds are the most painful and difficult to heal, they won’t be the only ones you’ll have to deal with.

Throughout your existence you will have to suffer sores, more wounds that, perhaps, open the one that seemed to be already closed. Do not worry. That hurt child that you are now will become a very strong, resistant adult who will know how to give great value to smiles and good times.