If You Are Going Through A Difficult Situation, Go For It!

Cheering up when you’re going through a difficult situation can be tricky. Emotions do not collaborate and you feel that you are in a deep well that you cannot get out of. What can we do in such a circumstance?

Normally, we are bad for a few days, but this has to be: days, not months. It is natural that we complain, that sadness invades us and that we do not have the will or the strength. However, this has to come to an end – and fast!

As the psychiatrist Howard Samuels says, “we have all been through a devastating situation at some time … You just need to take strength and start building a new life.

Isolation is positive and negative

Many people, when they are going through a difficult situation, withdraw into themselves. Instead of seeking help, leaning on others, or even going out to clear up, they are isolating themselves.

Isolation can be something very positive, as it can help us face our emotions, feel them and give us the time to manage them. In addition, isolation also allows us to focus on the circumstances that we have to face.

In this way, we take our time to be able to see the situation from different perspectives, to assess the multiple options and to make a decision on how we are going to act on it.

However, this isolation cannot last too long. People who settle in complaining and victimizing when a difficult situation surprises them in life can fall into depression due to these attitudes.

In these cases, the isolation does not become a healthy process to take time and glimpse a possible solution to the problem, but it becomes a refuge in which they will feel safe and comfortable.

In a difficult situation there will always be things that activate us

Each of us has tastes and passions that lead to a positive state of mind. Therefore, in a difficult situation, dedicating ourselves to these pleasures will help us to have a happier vision and greater hope regarding those problems.

• It may be that going to the gym makes us feel very good, that painting brings us to a state of unequaled calm or that going to the movies helps us feel free of all the emotional load that we carry.
• It is not about running away from what is happening to us or not thinking about it. It is about doing things that activate us and make us feel good so as not to fall into that unfortunate and negative isolation that leads us to permanent immobility.

Doing things that activate us, that also allow us to take care of ourselves, will help us avoid seeing isolation as a refuge that will take away from us any activity that we liked to do to fall into an indefinite apathy.

Let’s not limit ourselves because a difficult situation is making us believe that the world is ending. We can all get out of any circumstance. The problem is that, perhaps, we do not see it because we lack confidence in ourselves.

How to learn to be more resilient

Resilience is a capacity that will help us a lot if we are going through a difficult situation. Thanks to resilience, we will be able to overcome adversity effectively regardless of its severity.

However, for this, you have to put into practice certain habits and change some beliefs. For example, you have to try to be more flexible when faced with changes and avoid controlling situations.

However, it  is important that we surround ourselves with positive people, because if we are surrounded by toxic people our resilience will get smaller instead of growing.

What other things can we learn to be more resilient?

• See problems as an opportunity.
• Practice mindfulness or mindfulness .
• Know yourself and be aware of your capabilities and limitations.
• Cultivate realistic optimism.
• Don’t abandon your sense of humor.
• Lean on friends and close people or seek professional help.

When a difficult situation comes into your life, how do you deal with it? Do you think you have a strong resilience or do you consider that you should practice and strengthen it?

There are many circumstances that we will not expect and that we will have to think about how to overcome. However, there is something that we always have to be clear about and that is that, whatever happens, we can always handle it. And if we cannot, we can always go to a specialist: a psychologist or psychiatrist can help us with this difficult situation.